I'm stumped. I'm not so sure what is the answer to your question. I'll do some research in Google and get back to you if I discover an good answer. You should email the people at Medifast as they probably know..
Big hugs coming at you right now! I feel so bad for you and could feel your sadness, through your words. OF COURSE you are upset. It was not only a connection to someone you loved, who wanted you to have these things, but what a treat to have such nice things to shrink into..
It IS unfortunate that hubby gave the bag away, by mistake. I am sure he does feel just awful for this. In time, I.
You are able to feel less sad about this loss of your step mom's things. I agree with ivey you are having to grieve all over again ..
Awww I'm sorry that you had to go thru this. I know you were looking towards wearing your step mom clothing. Its a shame that it happened, go ahead and cry it's ok. glad that you made a better choice to put the Medifast food back in the fridge and not go back to old ways. Its soo hard not to use Medifast food as comfort, I used to eat for comfort also. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers, take care...
That is such a sad story...........I feel the pain in your post..
No matter what your hubby wasn't trying to hurt you, he thought he was doing a good thing for so many people that wouldn't have the chance to wear such nice clothing otherwise..
It's nice to know that you had such a wonderful relationship to your stepmother. I have one with my stepfather, and will be devastated when something happens to him..
I know you said financially it's tough right now to make a purchase for clothing......but maybe if you go to the goodwill store he donated to, there might be something left that was hers, and even if you have one item........it might help fill that void you need filling..
I'm so very proud of you that you took out the tupperware and put the Medifast food away, without having any. Cause like you........that would push me towards wanting that food......but would I be strong enough to walk away.......I'm not sure..
Again, I'm so sorry for your loss and your pain. Sending my thoughts, prayers and a hug your way..
Julie, I'm sorry you are going through a hard time. I know this does not help, but things happen for a reason. Perhaps a homeless lady looking for work found the perfect outfit for a job interview. You still have the memories of your step mother and that is the most important. I will keep you in my prayers...
My heart goes out to you. It's hard to know something you valued so much is just gone...and it's hard to forgive right now but time will help. I would feel the same as you do...hurt, devastated, upset and even angry. Not having much growing up has made me attach too much value to things and I don't want anyone messing with them...ever! I try to tell myself they are just things and who will care 100 years from now..(probably still just ME!! lol). My thoughts and prayers are with you for peace and continuted strength...
Oh, you must be so hurt. My heart goes out to both you and your husband. When something this troubling happens I try to always switch places with the one that made the mistake. Try to imagine how he feels, what if you your self did this same action by accident. You will find the time to forgive him, I believe that there are reasons for every strange action. Try to imagine all the people who are getting to wear the items, maybe it helped someone get a job, or get some confindence to be stronger. Your memories of your step mother will always be yours, for you to hold in your heart...
I just can't express how grateful I am to all of you for your friendship, encouragment and support. I am feeling much better today and I think I will take a trip to Goodwill and see what's left..
Having you all to "talk" to last night, instead of eating, was a real blessing. What did I do without you all before?!? Oh yeah - I ate and got fat!! LOL.
Husband is forgiven - how could I not, right? He is my biggest blessing in life and he has loved me literally through "thick and thin"..
What an amazing group of friends we are on this site......I can never thank you all enough...... :)..
Julie, call the Goodwill. I thought I had put a bag of jewelry in by mistake, and I called the center and they connected me to the place where they take the stuff too, and although my jewelry wasn't there they did find the stuff that was donated by me! (My jewelry did finally show up, I had forgotten it at a hotel!) But they might be able to help you retrieve it before it goes out on the floor for sale after you tell them what happened. Here's praying for ya!..
Wow, I don't know what to say. I think I'd be hitting every Goodwill in the area just in the off chance I could find just one thing I lost..
My heart goes out to you and also my prayers...
I don't know if anyone can relate to this, but I'm having such a hard time right now with something that happened today. It actually happpened 4 days ago, but I just found out about it today and tears are streaming down my face as I write this..
My stepmom passed away from breast cancer 1 1/2 yrs ago at 53 yrs old. My dad kept her things in his closet all this time. He was finally ready to go through them and wanted me to come over and help him, and take all of her nicest things for myself..
I finally went over and we spent several difficult hours going through everything. I came home with a huge bag full of things - hundreds and hundreds of dollars worth of beautiful clothes/jackets/coats that my dad said she really wanted me to have and that I knew would remind me of her for years to come..
That was about 2 months ago, and I've been keeping them in the bag, looking forward to the day I could take them out and start wearing them, as my stepmom was a size 10/12 and I have been considerably larger, just now getting down to that size. We are also far from having the money right now for me to buy new clothes for my smaller size, so it was a real blessing for me to have these things to look forward to wearing......
Today when I looked in my closet, the bag was gone..
I frantically ran out to the living room, asking my husband in a shaky voice, where the bag with Marti's things was. He said that he took it to Goodwill with several bags of clothes that my daughters' needed taken there..
Even though I had told him 2 months ago, when I came home from my dad's with the bag, what was in it and how important it was to me - he forgot - saw the bag - and assumed it was meant for Goodwill..
I am so upset, angry and most of all sad. I wish I could stop.
My husband keeps apologizing and I know he feels awful. That doesn't make it any better though. I wish it did..
I want to eat so badly! As a matter of fact, I went out to make myself some dinner in the midst of my sobbing, because I haven't eaten hardly anything all day. I finished making it, then just stood there staring at it. I finally got out some tupperware and put it all in the fridge because the thought crossed my mind that before GBS I would have gorged myself with food, to comfort and console myself. In a way, that made me cry even harder - because now I have nothing to comfort myself with..
So, I'm pouring my heart out to you guys. Even though the specific details are different, I know we all go through struggles and heartbreaks and disappointments and we are all finding new ways to cope with them. Thanks for.
, and send up a.
That I can forgive my husband sooner rather than later :O..
What a sad post, and what a shame..
Your hubby has made an awful mistake and is probably ripping his heart out, Im so glad you have forgiven him, It was unintentional..
Doing a good deed, on this occasion was a bad thing, what a shame..
In this time of hardship and recession having something to perk you up waiting for some sucess is a great way of trying harder to achieve results..
I am truley sorry..
Hopefully something good will come of this, someone even more needy could be benefitting the mistake, hopefully their is something lucky and unexpected your way... You deserve a little miracle..
Im sure hubby will be going out of his mond on how he can put things right and treat you to something special.....
A miracle and good luck follows..
Julie - I'm so sorry! This is a very hard time for you. I know I've thrown things away by mistake and have regretted it forever! When I last moved, I had an Amish quilt that I had brought back all the way from Amish country in Ohio. I had it in a green trashbag because it was so big. Well, of course, it got thrown in the dumpster by mistake!! I'm still mad over it!! We had searched for hours for the perfect most beautiful quilt, paid a lot for it and I had to lug it back in my suitcase. I'm so sorry this happened to you. I know that no words can make it better but just know I'm thinking about you!! Time will make it better.
Maybe try to go to one of those Salvation Army centers and try looking for them. It might be worth a shot. I know that's what they do here (Boston) and they have the centers around that sell the clothes they get in the donation bins. Good luck!..
So sorry to hear of your loss, it sounds like your stepmother was a very special lady..
I know everyone grieves in their own way and in their own time and this must make you feel like your going thru it all over again..
There are so many great suggestions that have been made, please let us know how you are doing and how your hubby is :).
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Julie, I'm sooooo sorry this happened. Just remember that all things happen for a reason. Someone out there may have desperately needed some of those things. To interview for a new job, stay warm, or for going to.
...... I'm soooo sorry it happened, but I'm glad you and hubby are doing okay. We will always be here for you..
Julie I AM SOOOOO SORRY your husband did that. I feel soo bad for you. I am going through a rough time right now and noticed I have been eating a heck of a lot more than I should be and can now eat chocolate-not a lot at once, and I can handle bread and carbs more. Here I am wondering why the scaled is not moving at all. I have always been an emotional eater- if I was.
Or in that state of mind-I didnt eat right then but afterwards I would eat whatever. Like you said everyones "breaking point " is different. It is especialy hard since your husband is most likely your rock to lean on and he was the one that did this so it's even harder for you. I am glad you came on here and let it outpls keep doing that I dont have a rock-I am single and alone. I have many awesome friends but I have always been the silent one and never tell people how sad I really am and that part still has yet to change I dont want to burden them and I know they wont understand..
You will forgive your husband since he didnt do it intentionally but I feel your pain I have been soo depressed lately and I was really down at work today which means I am really quiet (which everyone is wondering why at the office since it is not like me) and I had a appt with my.
Right after work and let me tell you I sooo did not want to go and I was going to call her and tell I ended up getting a flat tire or some excuse but then I kept thinking I will keep staying at this weight if I go back to my old ways so I went and worked out and I did feel better afterwardsmaybe I was still in shock from all the ab.
She made me do!!! LOL Sp maybe try doing some exercises I am now sad again but I did feel better after.
Email me anytime you want to talk-I will be there for you!! Take care.
So sorry to hear what happened. It was just a huge oops and I'm sure that your hubby feels so bad. I really.
That you are able to retrieve some of it back. If not, I.
You can retrieve some of your happy memories with her back in your mind. The memories of the times you shared are what's pricesless in life. The things were just that. I'm so happy that you got to share your life with her and that she meant a lot to you. Best wishes...
Sorry about your hurt I can only imagine My grandmother had past away a year ago and I got all her clothes because my grandfather didn't want to throw them out but he didn't want to see someone else in them either and since I live the so far away I got them and when I had my.
Peopled knowing how I adore having my grandmother dresses asked what I was going to do with them (even though she was 80 years old and I am 44 she had a daughter who is my best friend and more of a sister than an aunt picked out her clothes) well I told everyone that I was having the clothes altered I was keeping them and I know as I read your post I just cried with you because I could imagine the hurt I would feel but at the same time I hurt for your husband as well because my husband would also be as hurt as I would be and just thank God you have him my heart hurts for you good luck in finding the clothes..
Julie.. first of all I want to tell you that you have a wonderful dad, and I want you to focus on that day you spent together going through all of those wonderful memories.. het memory of that day you spent together celebrating the life of your step mom will LONG outlive the clothes and anything else that got sent to the Goodwill... I am so happy you had that time together.. that alone is PRICELESS!!!........************HUGS************..
UpNorth what a great answer! Julie please update us and let us know how it is going...
Omg...........I am so very sorry for the terrible loss that you feel. But remember that all things happen for a reason. Consider this.......as beautiful as those clothes were and you know you would be looking good in them, you may have been surprised that once you had them on........it might not have produced the feeling that you think that it would simply because they did once belong to your step mother. It might also have been difficult for your father to actually see those clothes on you. I pray that GOD will send a way for you to go out and splurge a little on some new clothes for yourself and you can put the sense of loss behind you. Chin Up!..