Good question... I dunno what is the answer to your question. I'll do some poking around and get back to you if I got an answer. You should email the people at Medifast as they probably could give you an answer..
Omg my advice is the same as others fix your relationship with your husband .....
Okay first off spartacus....there is a reason for this. Sometimes when we go through therapy or some other life-fixing experience we "transfer" our feelings of gratitude to the control person (therapist or doctor or rescuer). It's commonly called transference..
When you go through this.
If you were using Medifast food as your addiction and you no longer have that it becomes easy to transfer to another mind-altering substance or in this case person..
I have found a common thread amongst most people who have gone through WLS and that is this feeling of powerlessness. We all do it. We give our power to others to use or misuse as the case may be. It can be quite scary to take back your power and have the control in your own hands. Alot of responsibility comes with owning your power - gosh you could even fail. But you can succeed too..
I feel for you and your husband. I think you might need some help to work through all this - get thee to a therapist. Gosh, knows I couldn't do this without one..
You're not crazy either..
I know that I need to find a therapist. Are there any therapists that you can find online? I was in therapy before and it really did not help. They put me on.
And I gained a whole bunch of weight..
Made me feel like I did not care anymore about anything-that's how I got up to 320lbs and that's why I had the GBS. I guess I got up to 320 lbs because none of the issues I had before were solved and now I am back to where I started. Anyway Thank you D'Arcy for responding It does make sense about the transference-I was not able to control my weight, and this surgeon did. I just have to find the strength to get my life back in my own hands...
I don't think you're crazy, he gave you a whole new life. I will tell you what my pastor says, " we always think the grass is greener on the other side, but I promise you, the grass is greener where you feed it, water it, nurture it and do all you can to help it grow". The best thing you can ever do for your children (if you have children) is to love their father. I.
The best for you and ask you to seriously think about what is the best thing for your whole family. Sometimes this.
Gets us to concentrating on ourselves so much,ie. 24/7 worrying about getting in the right food, fluids,vits,protein, etc. that we become fixated on ourselves and forget to care for others, We all suffer with that. God bless you...
I was expecting you to be male when I saw your name... boy was I wrong..
So.... Most of us go through the angry, frustrated, quick tempered moods. I know I did, and probably still do but I realise I am doing it....
Crazy for falling in love???? Well that makes me a raving lunatic because I have found more than friendship on here. I am emotionally attached to everyone... I actually care, worry, celebrate the good, shed a tear at the sad, and just am an emotional wreck when I see people suffer..
Best I dont watch any weepy films.. I will blubber for sure...
So I am in love... Im a lunatic, but my wife is and always will be my biggest and most precious love ever, without her I would be nothing, she makes me..
Thats where you have to look hun, Infatuation or thinking of someone else as you do could be deprimental to your marriage..
You should seek some advice, and probably sit down with your husband and talk to him, make things good.... they must have been before, they can be again....
Dont let a little maddness wreck your marriage...
Andy (Buzz in the UK)..
Hormones, hormones, hormones! Sounds exactly like me for the first 3 months. Fat stores estrogen, and women shed it like crazy with the high rate of weight loss after GBS. In desperation and fear of alienating those closest to me, I finally consulted with a gynocologist and cried for 1/2 an hour to her about my horrible mood swings, nasty periods and general miserable state. She changed my.
Method (an IUD with a different mix of hormones), I felt better within a couple of weeks. I would seek out this kind of support along with that of a therapist who has worked with WLS patients, Usually you can find a good therapist by going through your state psychological association. You may have to road test a few before you find the right one. BTW, a psychologist CANNOT prescribe meds, so that is a good way to start. Talk should come before seeing a psychiatrist and meds unless you are in crisis or have already had a mental health crisis...
Based on your last post, I would have to say you had emotional issues before.
And they were not resolved so now you feel the need to introduce another emotional issue into your life. I fear that your "desire" for your surgeon is just a symptom of previous unresolved past issues. Obviously, this is causing stress in your life. Don't do anything today that you will regret tomorrow. Find a good therapist...