I'm stumped. I'm not so sure what is the answer to that question. I'll do some research and get back to you if I discover an useful answer. You should email the people at Medifast as they probably could give you an answer..
Honey, I would ask them what makes them so different? I would then ask why they feel the need to be negetive. If they value the relationship they would take into account how you feel and you can talk it out. My mom always said..."God don't like ugly" and this is just plain ugly..
I had a family memeber who was completely negetive from the time I started the process over a year ago. They were full of all the things that could go wrong. Feeling secure in my.
And choice of surgeon, I had the.
And have not looked back. Now that same family member wants to know how she can get the.
Instead of being negetive, I told her when she is ready I am here..
You will be blessed. Use those comments as motivation to stay on track. Don't be afraid to tell people how you feel, cause if you are anything like me, if you keep it in you will EAT it! I am so an emotional eater. Don't let them bring you down or steal your joy..
Keep your head up!..
I have found with negative people in my life that their comments are usually directed from their own fears. It's often not about you at all, it's about them. When you look at it this way you can actually empathise with them and talk to them from that perspective..
When next this person mentions the negative aspects that someone else has said respond in a manner that deals directly with the fears. It's hard not to take all that stuff personally. But try to be like a duck and let the negative stuff just slide off your back like water on a duck's feathers..
Jerry is right, it's hard enough trying to live our own lives and be honest with ourselves let alone trying to figure and fix other people..
Be true to you..
Simple.. we do this for ourselves and those we love to be there longer for them... don't listen to it.. I mean who cares? It's a personal decision and some people think they are experts on this who don't know anything.....
I think D'arcy got it right. She's scared and you may the only person she really knows who has been through it. I would tell her that in order to lose and keep weight off, a positive attitude is an absolute necessity - and right now she is bringing you down and in taking responsibility for your own health you cannot allow that to continue. Tell her that you understand her concerns and that the paperwork and waiting period is probably one of the most stressful. Offer to answer specific questions as she gets closer or maybe give her copies of some of your notes especially as concerns post.
That being said, when she starts in again (and she probably will) say something like "You and I both know being fat is not a choice that we made - but rude is a choice. Why are you choosing to be rude to me now? ".
Hey something similar worked for me- it's worth a shot..
In the meantime don't give her the power over you. You are strong, you can stand up and walk away. And if anyone else in your family questions it - let them hear the tape..
This person is obviously committing the sin of Envy. She wants what you have so much so that she doesn't want you to have it either. And by filling you with negativity she is trying to set you up for failure so "she"? can then pass you up and feel better than you and better about herself...
You have choices to make! One of them may be hard, but you may need to be more choosey in who you surround yourself with. You know how the old saying goes: you can't pick your family, so make sure you pick good friends! Maybe some the people in your life that are so negative, need a wake up call whereby you distance yourself from them for a period of time and wait to see what happens. You have lots of great and understanding friends here at DS, but I know we are not your f2f friends..
We love you and hopefully no one here will ever say mean or negative things to or about you..
Hang in there. Be the boss of your own life!.